We become ashamed of ourselves based on others opinions and unrealistic views of who we should be.
Maybe we were told we were the family idiot or not good at anything and don’t deserve to exist.
When we were young we believed these things from our caregivers because we thought of them as gods. Not good gods either, more like frightening monsters.
As adults we have issues with trust, intimacy, boundaries etc. We are scared because we believe we are flawed with secrets of self-hatred, addictions, depraved things we have done and so on.
What is the answer, there is no easy answer but there is an answer. I am going to shout this out:
EVERYONE IS FLAWED, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, WE HAVE ALL BEEN STUPID, PERVERSE, WE ARE ALL ODD, INSECURE, PRETENDING TO KNOW IT ALL, WICKED, BAD TEMPERED, TRYING VERY HARD TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER GROUP OF HUMAN BEINGS.
Let’s stop judging ourselves and others based on unrealistic views coming from media, dysfunctional families and violence, it’s far better to accept ourselves and others based on our humanness. Let’s celebrate our differences and laugh at the strangeness of our human existence. We are all in the same boat of trying to live a decent life. Let’s pat ourselves on the back and be supportive of others who are trying too.